Is It Ill-discipline or Immaturity?

I just can't seem to figure it out.

My son wrote me a letter saying I push him too hard. He doesn't like to be pushed to do things. He wants to be left alone. He'll do what needs to be done when he feels like doing it. I swear I could have punched him in the face. But then I pulled back and wondered if I had failed him as a parent. Is it true that I push him too hard? Have I failed to show and prove to him the value of discipline?

If we can afford to let people do what they want, when they want, how they want, why do we even have the calendar to begin with?

Why do we insist that goals specifically state what must be done, by whom, by when? Why does the word 'accountability' even exist? I have to consider that I'm failing to inspire as a parent. And if that's the case, how can I even begin to think that I can inspire as a coach?

If we all only did things when we felt like doing them, how far would the human race have come?

If parents only fed their children when they felt like it, how many children would survive and be healthy and happy?

If teachers only taught when they felt like teaching, how many stupid and illiterate people would we have in the world?

If doctors only saved people's lives when they felt like it, how many friends and family would we bury every week?

I think you get my point by now.

How do I show and prove to my son that discipline is a worthy endeavor, and is most likely to lead him to wealth, health and happiness, more so than him being a slave to his basal needs?

Was I wrong in saying...

"What makes you think the world is a therapy session? The world don't care about you and your feelings. In this world, you get rewarded for performance. And performance is about consistency, not about moods and feelings. You've got to do what needs to be done, when it needs to be done, in the quality and quantity in which it needs to be done. 

Deliver the results or get fired!

Deliver the results or lose your business!

Deliver the results or lose your health! 

Do you think if you don't feel like dressing warmly in the winter you won't get sick?

In nature, what do you think happens if the springbok doesn't feel like running when it's pursued by the lion?

That's what happens when you only do things

when you feel like doing them.

Consistency is the one thing that virtually guarantees you success. That's why there's a saying to the effect of, 'First you make your habits, and then your habits make you.'

Wimpy, flimsy, and emotional habits produce a weak and flimsy life.

So now you have to make a choice.

What kind of life do I want?

What kind of habits will give me the life I want?

Consistency leads to competence, and competence leads to confidence. Confidence then leads to success.

Everything else is just a recipe for misery!"